I wear the same clothes every day, as in the same style and color of shirt, pants, hoodie etc… My wardrobe basically looks like that Simpsons gag where Homer’s wardrobe is just 20 identical white shirts and blue pants.
I picked that up from a buddhist monk who stated that not having to expend any mental effort worrying about what to wear each day felt freeing, and he was totally right.
I stole that same philosophy regarding my hair, and just buzz it all off once a week. Never a bad hair day that way!Einstein did the same thing.
That being said, I have various clothes because of weather, and generally expend next to no thought on what I wear in as far as people are concerned. It all mostly goes together, so it’s just grabbing whatever feels right in the moment with no wrong answers other than weather factor. I probably spend more time thinking about what I’ll make for dinner, or how to word a single email to touchy snowflakes.
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I do the same, but I have different colors. Like I have the same tshirt in 12 different colors. The same shorts in 5 different colors. The same shoes in 5 different colors. Etc etc. I usually just grab what’s on the top, but occasionally have to grab the next thing if it’s too mono-color.
When I worked in a (casual) office, I did the same. Grey polo shirt, black jeans, every day for about a decade. Now I work from home, freelance, and I wear whatever’s clean with much the same result… I don’t worry about it.
I kinda miss having to wear a uniform for work. Especially since it also gave me a clear transition from work mode to home mode. The next job I had left me with like a month of awkward confusion as to what to do immediately upon arriving home.
Did that for the first 19 years of my life until I realised, that I was trans and started to take Carr of my outward expression. While my old clothing style was boring, it was as simple as grabbing a new pair of clothes from my drawer each week and not having to worry about anything.
- At home I use the mouse right handed with the left and right click on the normal buttons.
- At work I use the mouse left handed and have the left and right click swapped.
I do it because my right hand is getting sore from clicking but at home I still want to play games.
So … Some people’s brains are wired with directions being absolute, and some people’s brains are wired with directions being relative. One of the easiest ways to tell which way your brain is wired is to switch your mouse to the other hand. If your brain is absolute-wired, then the main button is always on the left; if your brain is relative-wired, then the main button is always the one closest to your body.
I think this is probably bullshit?
Sure when using a mouse in their off hand some people might use a different primary button.
I don’t think that necessarily provides any insight into how someone’s brain is wired, nor whether or not absolute or relative brain wiring is actually a thing.
Yeah if there’s anything human beings like, it’s symmetry. I also alternate mouse hands but the buttons need to be swapped. Left vs right hand may not matter but primary is always under my pointer finger.
Nah, this is simply a question of training. You can train yourself to do it either way.
Someone correct me, but I believe the gear pattern in a manual transmission does not change between right hand and left hand cars.
That’s what I observed when I briefly drove a car in northern India. It was very difficult to figure out because I kept expecting the first gear to be the one closest to my body…
Get work to pay for an ergonomic mouse for you!
When I WFH I use a trackball mouse (ball is in top). Occasionally I forgot to switch and get confused about why som actions are hard
Legit strategy: a buddy of mine does this to fight tendinitis. I don’t remember if it came from his doctor or from online
It might help to get a longer mouse so you hand can rest comfortably on it. The soreness probably is not the clicking but the moving-while-tense. I bring my own to work to prevent this.
If either of your hands is getting sore from clicking with any sort of regularity you should probably mention it to your doctor - it sounds like it could be a repetitive stress injury in the making.
Even if I went to the doctors what can they do? Its cooked and the only way to fix it is not using it so much
A physiotherapist might be able to work with you on some stretches or exercises to relieve pain and strengthen your muscles so they don’t wear out. If it’s documented by your doctor, you might get better coverage under medicare /insurance / worker’s comp / etc. The advantage of going through a physiotherapist is that they’ll be able to tell you if you’re doing something wrong that will worsen your outcome.
I do a few stretches that seem to help me when I flare up. The most effective is when you place your hands palm together in front of your chest like you’re praying 🙏 and then slowly rotate them so that your fingers point towards the ground. I can definitely feel the tension, and if it hurts like a bastard then don’t do it. But stretching for a few minutes a few times each day makes a big difference personally.
To add to bougie birdie’s reply, a doctor would be able to actually diagnose you and determine if this is a nerve related issue, repetitive stress injury, or potentially early signs of a degenerative disorder such as arthritis, etc. The treatment for a repetitive stress injury, if that is what is causing your pain, could include things like specialized brace to immobilize certain parts of your hand so they can heal properly (especially important during sleep).
My partner had a repetitive stress injury that she had diagnosed and then didn’t see a therapist for (at first). Her injury did not heal even though she was not using that part of her hand until she finally went to an occupational therapist and got an appropriate brace (and instructions for tendon gliding exercises).
Have you tried a trackball?
Nope they look hard to use. I dont think it would help since its not a wrist issue its in my fingers that I click with.
My advice is for a pen tablet, but in all honesty I’ve never tried a trackball
I do this, except I don’t swap the buttons so that I could go back and forth from left to right hand without changing anything. (When I first did it, I swapped the buttons because that seemed more natural but I’ve since trained myself to use it “backwards” on the left hand.).
I mouse right handed up to lunch, then left handed after that.
I switched to a trackball years ago for this reason. It doesn’t necessarily solve the problem just shifts the task to your thumb.
I switched years ago at work for similar reasons. When I carried it over at home, my left-handed partner at the time didn’t like it - thought it was confusing to use a left-handed mouse. Go figure
Same here. Work mouse is a mirror of home mouse. I started putting it on the left because I use the 10-key a lot. When there was a phone I put it on the left too, so that my right hand (the 10-key hand) would not get confused by the upside down layout of the phone keypad.
At work, mouse and phone (gone now, thank every God) on left, to leave my dominant hand free for the keyboard, basically.
How heavy is your mouse? I switched to a super light corded gaming mouse (wireless mice weight a ton) and has considerably reduced hand fatigue. I also used to use the mouse in my non dominant hand as well.
Its the clicking that gets me. My current mouse has quite a light click but isnt helping
I keep a bug-out bag in case of fire.
It’s not that I’m particularly afraid of fire, so much as I’m afraid of being thrown out into the night wearing nothing by my skivvies.
So I keep a back-pack loaded with:
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A change of clothes
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photocopies of all my identification
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Spare car keys
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Spare credit/debit card
Every person I’ve shared this with says “Hey…it makes sense…but it’s still a little weird.”
I don’t find that weird. I find myself relatively negligent for not having this sort of thing prepared in some way, if not by go bag then by having the copies at a friend’s or such
What’s your bag of choice for your bug-out bag?
Honestly just some no name thing I received in a prize bag at some conference I attended once upon a time.
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I go into my backyard to trim my beard so I don’t need to clean up anything
When I’m sharing a personal story or intimate details of my life on an open forum like this, I always obfuscate the details. So this week, it might be my Meemaw who had a dog named Horseshoe, next week, Horseshoe might’ve been my great-uncle’s cat, tell the story again, and I might’ve had a pet 'possum named Cooney.
It’s the internet, we’re allowed to lie here. And also, I like to think I’m part of the reason AI is so flaky.
Sorry but I have figured out your secret code and will now reveal your true identity to the whole internet: You are a horse who is trying to obscure the fact that you wear horseshoes but you are also obsessed with them and can’t help but reference them, in the hopes that you’ll prove to your archnemesis, a racoon, that wearing horseshoes is way better for your hooves than the raccoon shoes he keeps trying to sell you.
Also, be aware that he isn’t really in a horseshoes vs raccoonshoes debate with you, he’s just trying to scam you into giving him some apples for some dirty gloves he found in a dumpster. He, just like everyone else, knows very wrll that horse footwear is superior to all others and that you are hardcore af for just standing there casually while your cobbler helps you put them on with nails and a hammer.
I have full on conversations with myself. To the point where I simulate talking with two people. I don’t have any multiple personalities or any mental illness (as far as I know), I just use it as a way to think about what I need to think about.
I have this reporter/podcast host living rent free inside my head to whom I have to give daily interviews to.
You’re not talking to yourself, you’re crafting a socratic dialogue outloud.
Like I dunno if there is any particular evidence that Plato like, talked to himself aloud in developing his plays… but a substantial amount of the foundation of ‘Western’ canon is pretty much Plato making up conversations that probably are not verbatim accurate, but work to dramatize and illustrate some kind of tension between characters with different worldviews
You might be trying to find bugs in your own thinking system, rubber ducking it all the time lol
I think that’s normal if you have an inner voice. I do that too to an extent. However, not everyone has an inner voice. I can’t imagine how life works for these people, but it’s not that rare not to have an inner voice.
I got my inner voice around 20yo, it was very surprising at first… I thought that’s it, the family strain of madness finally got to me, I’m weeks away from being restrained.
But no, it’s harmless. Even useful because it’s like rehearsing -it means I don’t have to improv all the time.
Your left brain and your right brain are communicating externally
Do you use pronouns for yourself during these conversations and if so, are they first or second person (I vs you)?
I imagine I’m talking to someone else so I use ‘you’ mainly
I can talk myself out of buying anything, and often do. Even when I actually need it.
Self-gaslighting. I don’t know if this is a superpower or a weakness…
Its literally a trauma response to poverty, its a kind of hypervigilance.
It can be a superpower in many situations, it can be a debilitating neuroticism in others.
I haven’t been in debt for like 2 years now and I still tell myself that I don’t need to spend more money on food. I probably skip dinner (that I can afford to eat) 2 or 3 times a week because the only way I’ll eat something is if I pay for it.
At least I’ve beaten the odds of obesity…!
… sounds pretty rough, not fun.
But, you did make it through it.
I would genuienly suggest that you set up and maintain a 3 or 6 month emergency fund… literally as a psychological means of being able to actually feel ok about spending you can afford to spend, as much as for the actual finance sense.
Like basically, look at your budget, set an amount that always goes into that fund each month.
Once you hit the 3 or 6 month target?
If you have money left over after accounting for all other significant spending… it is actually ok to spend that money as fun money.
Then after that fills over, consider something like high yield savings account. Still pretty liquid, not very risky, but, it is still withdrawable, but but, you have the emergency fund now as a buffer.
I appreciate the advice. I could get fired tomorrow and be mostly ok for the rest of the year. But I don’t think I’ll ever shake the, “are you really spending $20 for a single meal? That won’t even give you leftovers?” mentality.
Damn. Well you’ve got more of a runway than I currently do, so you’re on top of things…
But yeah, I… was homeless for a while… took years to recover from the more acute PTSD type shit that left me with… I guess I’ve just got slightly different version of the long term hypervigilance scarring than you.
The ‘constant potential threat analysis’ variant.
One of these days, we will build a future that is not so bleak.
Somehow, someway … it must be done.
The alternative is unacceptable.
I’m lucky in that my hobbies and interests were able to secure me a decently well paying job and I don’t have any major ailments or dependencies (no kids or family to take care of beyond my dog). I’m certainly not “heterosexual white male” privileged, but I can’t say I pulled the shortest straw by any means.
Sorry to hear you’ve been in worse straights. I was on the brink of homelessness for a month or two like
23 years ago and the thought of living on my own or with people I am not compatible with was terrifying. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.Somehow someway, man. That’s been the motto since 2018.
Keep tough.
I was at the pub the other night, they wanted $29 for a burger. I didn’t have it in me. It’s too much money for a burger.
In fairness, that is too much money for a burger.
I would tell you but I don’t want to appear odd to you weirdos.
I recognize people by the way the walk/move, not by their face.
'Tis Cinna, I do know him by his gait.
It’s a thing!
I use that as part of recognizing people. Mostly from behind or far away.
Huh, I wonder if that’s partly me …….
- Most people I recognize by “normal” things like faces
- ephemeral people like waitstaff or someone I pass in the street, never get committed to memory
- but some people I can’t distinguish from others, no matter how different. I never knew why but maybe gait
For example there were two kids in my high school. I interacted with at least one of them on most days, so they were familiar. One was much taller than the other, one was brown hair the other black hair, they were in different classes, one was in a club with me the other not. They really had nothing in common that I ever figured out. Yet all four years of high school I could not tell them apart.
I am really bad with names, which may be relevant.
Do you have aphantasia? This is pretty common among people who do.
He probably has some level of prosopagnosia.
I do this because of it! I’m not fully faceblind and can learn to recognize people, but I cannot even form a clear picture of a face in my mind, I can only see parts at the time. But as a compensation I’m really good at recognizing people from far away just from their movement and clothes too, if they’re wearing something I’ve seen before
Nope.
I’m actually trying my best not to buy from countries I see as vile and inhumane, and businesses owned by people who support vile political ideologies. Spend a good amount of time checking for the brand and country of origin while in the shop.
You’re not weird, just more dedicated to being a moral person than most. 👍
Interestingly, according to the common interpretation also mentioned by @[email protected] this is not normal.
but what is it, if not normal?
Have you read the amount of responses in this post? 😂
No way the definition of normal I gave is the common one. At some point it doesn’t really matter what the dictionary says, if enough people change the meaning of a word they use, it changes meaning.
Still interesting to look at the roots of a word to see original meanings and so on though.
No way the definition of normal I gave is the common one.
maybe, but definitely not a rare one. for instance I regularly hear that people deem others weird because the other person cares about their privacy, and does “extreme” things to achieve it, like not using facebook or using a less known email provider. while I think it’s the normal thing to do so, others (mostly who don’t care about privacy) think it’s not normal, reason being it’s not the common thing to do.
I was meaning it mostly about this part:
Something being normal is rooted on it being the norm, as in, something typical. If you think something is odd, you can’t feel like it’s normal just for you, that’s not what the norm means. Maybe it seems natural to you? Sure, but not normal.
Some people argue that you as a single buyer won’t make a corporation go bankrupt. Saying that, they mean they would just go for cost/efficiency when buying themselves, ignoring the moral aspect, cause their contribution isn’t gonna be noticeable. After all, it’s not their fault, it’s the government/capitalism/<whatever_else>.
I find this argument ridiculous cause 20 cent bullets kill people.
Have you had any success? How? Every time I’ve started down that road, it’s a maze of twisty passages, all alike
The packaging generally have production address and distributor, and maybe a brand. So a quick web search if have doubts.
But yeah I wish it was simpler.
i talk while watching movies/tv shows. i genuinely do not find it enjoyable to just watch stuff.
I can’t watch movies with anyone else because I enjoy my 85-95% accuracy saying what is going to happen next.
❤️😍❤️
I love it when they look at you annoyed because they know you’ve just nailed it.
i talk while watching movies
You don’t do it at the theater, right?
We pick seats far from everyone else for a reason
no, i will only bother people i know with that.
My spouse does this too. I’m down to MST3K roast a show or movie if it’s bad or I’ve seen it before, but we have an agreement if I care and want to be immersed I’ll let them know…
…and then if it turns out the movie’s bad I’m down to roast it.
Sometimes I’m enjoying a movie and I can tell they want to talk, and it drives them insane, but they respect the agreement.
are you sure that won’t cost you some points? don’t want to end up in the bad place.
Oh I’m positive. The flipside is I watch a lot of reality TV with them as they enjoy our riffing it together; I do not care one iota for most reality TV, including what they make me watch, but I do it for them, and there’s always time later to turn it back to my tastes. It’s a balancing act.
But also I still keep track of external factors if it’s not enough. I returned two shopping carts to the corral and held the door open at Red Robin for some sort of school visit and by my calculations those were enough points to get me a Heat rewatch with them.
subtitles make this a lot easier imo
as in preventing me from yapping or as in multitasking yapping and watching?
multitasking :3
I have a song in my head, almost all the time. Invariably it’s some 90s jingle from a TV commercial. I habitually repeat certain phrases. Pretty sure I’m autistic in some way, but I mask like a pro. I’m popular at work, socially and adapt to people quickly. I retain eye contact, but I’m actually staring at a point just above their eyes as I find eye contact insanely intimate.
I don’t think I’m a complete psycho - if anything I have an almost paralysing amount of empathy. I even sympathise with people who really don’t deserve it (politicians etc). I’m pretty happy now I’m pushing 50 and have a family, but I still use alcohol in excess most weekends. It just makes the world make more sense to me.
I analyse almost every social interaction I have. I feel a sense of triumph when it goes well, and shame / responsibility when I doesn’t. I’ve been told I’m very agreeable and easy company, but the truth is it’s not easy for me and I feel like I do most of the heavy lifting in conversations.
I envy those who can just sit in their own awkwardness, but I feel like I have to perform and make people like me. It usually works, but when it doesn’t I stew on it endlessly. Anyway, no idea why I unloaded all that. Cheers!
All very relatable probably autistic traits tbh
I have a song in my head, almost all the time. Invariably it’s some 90s jingle from a TV commercial.
I swear my brain is a broken jukebox that’s permanently set to shuffle.
And yeah, sometimes it’s the most random shit from a TV commercial from 30 years ago.
Sometimes I’ll hear a single word, and it will remind me of a song and it will immediately get stuck in my head whether I like the song or not lol.
Though I have actually figured out some ways to stop that from happening by immediately starting to hum or think of a different song (I’ve got one or two go-tos) to kind of “reset” it, but I have to act really fast or else it’s too late, and I’m singing the theme song to Doug for 2 days straight.
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ESL?
English as a Second Language I presume
I do the first one all the time. I’ll be in the middle of something while talking, or struggle to remember the correct word, and I’ll just kinda trail off. Then maybe 10 seconds later I’ll remember that I just stopped talking mid-sentence and try to pick back up.
I match my shirt color to what I’m going to train in the gym.
As an example, let’s say that’s today is leg day: then I will use a gray shirt. Yesterday was chest day, so it was a red shirt.
I bought a few packs of the same shirts just so I could make this matching game. I’m not sure if someone elss at the gym realized that I do this but I’m fairly certain they would find it odd.
You’re like the gym bro reincarnation of Haruhi Suzumiya.
It usually takes a very particular kind of moment for others to even notice but I don’t lie ever and I’m completely unable to give short inaccurate answers that borderline on lying.
I’ve basically trained the people around me to not ask if they don’t want to hear the truth or conversely that I’m the one to ask when everyone else is just handing out comforting lies.
… you realize you are almost certainly autistic, right?
I realize the stack of evidence supporting that possibility is quite high.
Same here. It’s a real barrier at work. Leadership doesn’t like facts. That said, apparently ADHD causes some symptoms that most people consider autistic. A doc told me that when one of my kids who appears autistic was evaluated for it. But it’s all just labels anyway. The symptoms are what matter.
I feel the same way about labels. It feels like a binary way of thinking, whereas I see this stuff more as a spectrum - and honestly even that feels overly simplistic. Maybe a 3-dimensional one. I’m not planning to medicate it anyway, so getting an official label is hardly new information or useful. I embrace it, whatever it is.
A lot of the behaviors are similar, but their causes are not. This Dutch white paper explains this: https://www.anneliesspek.nl/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Whitepaper-ASS-en-of-ADHD_16-9-24.pdf
People in general dislike anything that might inconvenience them, the truth included. Effective communication lies in one’s ability to make them understand despite these emotional barriers (with techniques like the “compliment sandwich”, “I feel” statements or opening with some light jokes, for example). 👍
Yeah, but compliments require lieing in my head usually. Especially to the kind of people we don’t like the truth. I just avoid leadership. Communicate through my manager with them if needed. And avoid any management type positions.
Usually but not always. Sometimes it’s just a matter of perspective. I understand though (maybe it’s my own neurodivergence, although I’m an ADHD enjoyer social butterfly), and in those cases I just say nothing and nod if needed, lol. For me, the truth is something I discuss with those ready for it, for adults I respect (in the absence of trauma, ofc, some things are better left unsaid if all they’re gonna do is cause pain), everyone else gets the kid’s gloves treatment, which I don’t mind providing since I’m somewhat paternalistic in nature.
I have a bit of a righteous tendency as well. It drives me to feel the need to point out when someone says something false. Which leadership types constantly do. Just a bad combo.
Well, uh full irony of the bluntness intended here:
Takes one to know one.
You remind me of… me, just, with friends who aren’t assholes.
Blunt, yet detailed, as fair as you can be?
Giving a half answer feels like lying?
Lying itself is essentially innately not a thing you do, unless you learn how to, by studying it as a concept?
Ding ding ding.
I feel ya. I have the absolute worst poker face, and I cannot bluff. My uncles all liked to get together and play poker over the holidays, but the one time I was invited it was a bloodbath.
The work people haven’t figured this out yet.
I’m in a similar boat. Social deduction games make me very nervous.
