Long story short I don’t feel like I deserve romance in my life yet. I feel like I got nothing to offer. I have felt this way for most of my life. Even though I have developed plenty of hobbies (I dance, skateboard, climb, go to the gym, etc.) and social circles. On one hand I am happy with myself and on another I feel like I can’t offer the other party anything, romance wise.
Normally others would say ‘You’ll find someone dont’cha worry ‘bout notin’ ya’hear?’ But I am at a point now where I hope a woman will not develop feelings for me because I am afraid of disappointing her. And through the years this only been getting worse. I know this is not a good way of thinking but I just can’t shake it.
I want to (mentally) change but I just don’t know how. So if anyone has got some tips for me (really anything goes) that might help I would very much appreciate it.
Note: I don’t care if the process of learning self love is slow, I just want to know what the process involves.
Edit: I am reading some great suggestions. So thank you all for that. Just as a reminder, I am not expecting people on the internet to fix my problems. Just some general, rule of thumb, tips (and or tricks).
For Me, confidence came with transitioning to My preferred gender. I couldn’t be happy while thinking of Myself as a man, because I didn’t want to be a man. It was impossible to love Myself as a man. It was easier to like Myself as a woman, but not to love Myself, because I wasn’t a woman either. It’s easy to love Myself as a goddess. And I feel more lovable this way too. I certainly get more romantic attention! And now that I know who I am, I know how to respond to it.
So I’ll say: you have to learn who you are before you can love yourself. Who do you want to be? What does success look like to you? I don’t mean financial or social success, I mean what mental picture of yourself actually makes you happy? Who are you in your wildest fantasies, sexual or otherwise?