Long story short I don’t feel like I deserve romance in my life yet. I feel like I got nothing to offer. I have felt this way for most of my life. Even though I have developed plenty of hobbies (I dance, skateboard, climb, go to the gym, etc.) and social circles. On one hand I am happy with myself and on another I feel like I can’t offer the other party anything, romance wise.

Normally others would say ‘You’ll find someone dont’cha worry ‘bout notin’ ya’hear?’ But I am at a point now where I hope a woman will not develop feelings for me because I am afraid of disappointing her. And through the years this only been getting worse. I know this is not a good way of thinking but I just can’t shake it.

I want to (mentally) change but I just don’t know how. So if anyone has got some tips for me (really anything goes) that might help I would very much appreciate it.

Note: I don’t care if the process of learning self love is slow, I just want to know what the process involves.

Edit: I am reading some great suggestions. So thank you all for that. Just as a reminder, I am not expecting people on the internet to fix my problems. Just some general, rule of thumb, tips (and or tricks).

  • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
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    7 days ago

    everyones sorta a loser because unless your the best there are other folk or folks out there who can do what you do and even better. Thing is people can also be the worst at things or have no talent. People value things at different levels and sometimes that can be things they are good and interested in and sometimes not. Some things are not as showy or maybe generally spotlighted in life. I did not see you mention any soft skills like listening or being honest or nice. Not everything is about physical activities. Someone can be pius in ways but not be a priest. Those things assoicated with males or females sometimes are expected but plenty of folks won’t fit the mold. This is why red green had “If the women don’t find you handsome, they should at least find you handy” but some men are not handy (honestly me. I mean I can be a bit for certain things) but they have some other things that someone can love. I would think less about what makes you worthy and think more about whats important to you. Let them decide if you have the things important to them.