- Most outrageous / unbelievable lies
- Most offensive / dangerous lies
- Most “adult meant it as genuine advice but it’s laughably out of touch” lies
- Lies you wish you still believed
- Lies you took as truth and didn’t question it until you were way too old
Yeah I was raised by a single mother and while not specifically told by her any of those points I internalized most of them (mind you, I opted for the word internalize and not believe on purpose). I think society as a whole tells that story, specially on mass media, and women seem to go with it knowing full well it is bullshit (I think it empowers them).
Your final sentiment resonates very strongly with me.
I have felt that nearly universally, the mostly-false stereotypes, statements and accusations made against men fall into the “projection” category. Men being obsessed with sex is the most noteable of them. Second only to the hologram that men are the ones that pressure women to look good when it’s in fact almost entirely the abuse from other women who are competing for sexual interest and potential mates.
I don’t think cognitive dissonance and projection are unique to women. It’s a shared human frailty. But as it relates to projecting their weaknesses/faults on to men it can be egregious at times.
I imagine it has to do with all of the sexual assault that they deal with regularly. Just a guess.
Don’t think you are wrong and having that reaction towards men after being sexual assaulted is in my mind very comprehensible. The bigger problem seems to be generalization actually, saying all men, all women, all people of color, etc, is always stupid. Hope we can all learn and grow even with our traumas and scars we take along the way!
I think they think it empowers them.
It does empower them. Until I came to the conclusion that my questions were well founded I had to waste a lot of energy trying things that didn’t work based on that narrative.
If you wake up you will see that is all speech and no bite. Unfortunately a lot of people don’t wake up and instead opt to play that game, basically creating a self fulfilling prophecy of sorts. People can also have the message so ingrained that even realizing its all bullshit they convince themselves its not.
Same can be said about all dogmatic view points actually.