In this case compromise means going somewhere neither of us is enthusiastic about. For me the value of eating out is that I don’t need to cook myself - a sushi buffet achieves that, and the food is good. Going to a nicer restaurant means it costs more, I need to wait longer and usually I get a smaller portion of food and the quality of it is the same at best. It’s simply just a worse experience for me personally. So since I’m not enjoying myself either way we may just as well go somewhere she wants to so at least one of us is having fun.
And you’re right - they have been bad relationships. We haven’t had anything in common. Last time though I did lay the cards on the table from the very beginning and 9 years later when she finally had enough she at least couldn’t say that she didn’t know or that I had changed. She did know.
If there is to be a new romantic relationship for me in the future I might just give it a try with a guy instead. It’s at least conceivable that things haven’t worked out in the past for the simple reason that I’ve been trying to shove myself into a mould I don’t fit into. I’m a peculiar, eccentric person and it takes a certain kind of individual to get along with me. It seems that people either like me a lot or not at all.
Excuse my cynicism. I’m not proud of it but it is what it is.
In this case compromise means going somewhere neither of us is enthusiastic about. For me the value of eating out is that I don’t need to cook myself - a sushi buffet achieves that, and the food is good. Going to a nicer restaurant means it costs more, I need to wait longer and usually I get a smaller portion of food and the quality of it is the same at best. It’s simply just a worse experience for me personally. So since I’m not enjoying myself either way we may just as well go somewhere she wants to so at least one of us is having fun.
And you’re right - they have been bad relationships. We haven’t had anything in common. Last time though I did lay the cards on the table from the very beginning and 9 years later when she finally had enough she at least couldn’t say that she didn’t know or that I had changed. She did know.
If there is to be a new romantic relationship for me in the future I might just give it a try with a guy instead. It’s at least conceivable that things haven’t worked out in the past for the simple reason that I’ve been trying to shove myself into a mould I don’t fit into. I’m a peculiar, eccentric person and it takes a certain kind of individual to get along with me. It seems that people either like me a lot or not at all.
Excuse my cynicism. I’m not proud of it but it is what it is.