amen. seeking fulfillment in others is the surefire way to be miserable. the most miserable people I have known were the ones who entirely derived their worth from others approval, and often it was so bad they had no internal validation mechanisms and often very poor internal regulation and they were seeking someone external to do their regulation for them.

No.

Go get an official diagnosis from a professional, including a physician.

You may have more severe issues than ADHD.

games back then were also done by dev teams of like a dozen people or two who did literally everything and you had like 1-2 people on each task. localizing games also took like a year or more from their country of origin.

now they are done by teams of hundreds or thousands, esp once you start adding all the middleware and outsourcing of various parts of the game they do now, and they are released internationally in dozens of markets at once.

it’s lot easier to find bugs in a game that is 1MB than on that is 256GB

The pre-algorithm internet and social media era of about 2000-2014.

I remember when Instagram was just pictures of my friends cats, hikes, and thrift finds. It was great and fun.

My experience of reddit wasn’t toxic until '22 or so. The first ten years I used it was mostly chill and fun, with the occasionally dramatic event that I had no personal stake in. I mostly was in my local city subreddit and hobby subreddits and a few reading ones.

But around '22 or so, for me at least, i started getting reported and banned regularly for sexism, racism, and violence. i think because I am not ‘woke’ and the overton window shifted to the point where my views were considered evil or something.

But since I’m an economic progressive and not a social engineering erase gender progressive, I’m a bad person now or something. I also committed the sin of having an outdoor cat and pointing out racial/sexist attacks on my local mayor.

And FWIW this type of crazy has bled over into the real world for me. Extremist rhetoric invaded several activity groups I enjoy IRL. Like, I don’t want to go to a book club and get lectured how I am evil for not buying/ the ‘right’ books, esp when I take most of my books from the library and most of the stuff I read is 100+ years old.

Just want to say I am dealing with this too. I had one guy yesterday reply to 10 separate posts of mine because of one thing I said in one thread they didn’t like. I blocked them, but it is insane behavior.

These replies were no legit either, they were just slinging insults and character assassination and telling me how stupid and evil I was for saying something they disagreed with.

It’s recent for me, this kind of nonsense has only been happening recently. a year ago it never did.

true, but let’s be honest most downvotes are just people disliking what you wrote.

it’s also an outlier position fueled by belief, and people tend to self-select to be around others who believe as they do, and punish those who don’t.

it’s one thing to be concern about privacy, it’s another to browbeat anyone who doesn’t have a pihole server and selfhosts all their media content as being ‘fools’. i don’t use linux other than at my job, and according to lemmy techies I’m a heretic.

.ml users are also just immature weirdos. most of my harassing comments calling me insults come from .ml users.

they don’t discuss and they don’t read. they just shout and quote russian/chinese state propaganda about how people living in those countries are so wealthy and liberated and so much better than americans or europeans. and if you do cite sources, they tell you that those are american propaganda and all lies and ONLY THE CHINESE GOVERNMENT IS TELLING THE TRUTH.

oh, and the .ml opening talk about the power of violence and their violent fantasies of killing everyone who has a modicum of economic security and all claim to be the poorest of the poor, which I highly doubt.

I was a communist when I was 15, but even back then I was into the utopia part, not the mass murder fantasy part.