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    Police responding to a shooting found Sanchez-McCray’s body in the early morning, according to early media reports, which misgendered her. Officers entered a home with an “unsecured door” and found Sanchez-McCray, who had suffered multiple gunshot wounds and died at the scene.

    Damn, almost seems targeted

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      As a person of color, I make it a point to avoid the south altogether. But Virginia’s not even that far south, it’s practically DC area (which I view as the border on the east coast).

      I actually have a major life goal to that effect, “live my entire life without being stabbed or shot”. This is partly because I don’t want to be stabbed or shot, but also partly because I feel it’s an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices. In my efforts to achieve this goal, there are now a lot of places on my no-go list.

      • All former Confederate states
      • Mexico
      • All of the middle east (especially Israel)
      • India, Pakistan, Afghanistan
      • Egypt
      • Sudan
      • South Africa
      • Congo (and surrounding area)
      • Russia, (honestly most former Soviet nations)
      • China
      • Prison in general

      I could probably consolidate the list by saying “any place where my ethnicity or spoken language would cause people to instantly distrust me, or where violence is widespread or indiscriminate”, but truth be told, that’s most of the world.

      I also try to avoid bars & pubs.

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        Mexico is alright. Never worried about getting stabbed there.

        However, I did have to go through a federales checkpoint, and it was pretty sketchy having a few guys with submachine guns checking the car out for a few minutes.

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          Drug cartels seem to have more power than authorities. For a while they were blatantly killing political candidates they didn’t like (and beheading them if I remember correctly…), that shit is scary.

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        Since you are a POC, you might just want to avoid East Asia and SE Asia, if you are trying to avoid racism. But even with the racism, you are highly unlikely to get attacked/injured/killed because of the POC issue. Far less likely than probably anyplace in the USA. These places are incredibly safe for all regardless of skin color.

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        Why Russia, though?
        There are lots of nice places in Mexico. Prison in Norway is downright rehabilitative. You missed North Korea.

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              I’m Russian, and even though i’m flattered that you’d like to explore the history of my country, nowadays i would advise doing that from outside. Until that imperialist dictator gnome is dead

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                see also: don’t come visit my country right now. we’re cleaning some shit up and aren’t a safe place to visit.

                someday when all the fascists are dead maybe i’ll come visit you

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                Well, I’m not a straight person. I guess I would just stick to museums and daytime activities anyway.

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          Russian Project is effectively equivalent to manifest destiny, and the government has existed in service to white supremacy for a while. they call it “russian chauvanism” in the places it influences, but the Russian federation acts as a colonial imperial state

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          Well, I think Russia is another one of those places where my ethnicity or language could make me a target. Truthfully, I think I’d be more worried about the govt/police than the average citizens.

          There are totally safe parts of Mexico. I’ll stay out all the same.

          Heh, I did skip right past NK, I guess I didn’t figure it needed to be said.

          There’s a Spike Lee film called “The 25th Hour”, great movie. It takes place in NYC and has this one line delivered by someone playing a Russian Mob boss, a real intimidating character:

          I have been in three different prisons, Montgomery. Three different countries. And you know what I learned?

          I learned prison is a bad place to be.

          But I’m sure Norway is nice 😉

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          That youre a metaphorical offensive driver while this person is defensive?

          what does opening a comment on here with “fuck you” say about you?

          one way is not inheritently better than the other

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            The good thing about it is you don’t need to read past the first few words. Which saves us all a lot of time and effort in the long-run. A weird sort of way, it’s honest (albeit impulsive) discourse. Most people nowadays seem to hide what they really mean behind double-speak.

            The bad thing is reading the rest of their comments makes me actually worried. We’ve all been in a bad place in our heads and some of us know just how f***ed up it can get.

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            , but also partly because I feel it’s an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

            what were my poor choices?

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              You can make admirable choices that also put you in danger, that’s entirely valid, but that is making a deliberate choice. Routinely making poor choices however will put you into dangerous situations whether you intended to or not. Again just to be clear, I think doing humanitarian work like working with the homeless is absolutely a fantastic way to give back to your community and is in no way a poor choice.

              All that said, I’m not certain I believe you. My mother did a lot of work with the homeless too, as part of a meal program run by her church. As she did that, I used to spend evenings at the church several times a week. All that is to say, I know that community fairly well, I know the kind of people who helped out there. I know they were all kind, forgiving, understanding people. They understood that people can end up needing their service for all kinds of reasons. You on the other hand, came out swinging, ready for an argument. You called me a coward without really having any idea what kind of person I am. It didn’t strike me as “kind” or “understanding”.

              To sum up: “dude, chill”

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                    It certainly appears so.

                    I’ve tried to be civil here, but I’m not sure he’s on the same page. It may not be worth continuing the conversation any further here, trolls don’t argue for the same reason most users do, they’re playing a different game.

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                    do you enjoy arguing with people over details of their life when you weren’t there, especially when those details make you feel bad?

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                    oof, did you catch a stray for reading that and thinking “man, what choice did he make to get stabbed”? or have you been taking credit for your family’s good deeds your entire life like op there and doing none of your own too

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          Surely all it says is that regardless of our hopes, plans, and intentions sometimes shit hits our fan and we have no control over it?

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          I think you could approach this a little less angrily given this person never actually directed any vitriol toward you.

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          Uh, I think it says nobody can predict the future. My system is not guaranteed to work, it’s aspirational. But it has worked for me up to this point, so I’m calling it a success so far.

          I’m glad you do work for the homeless, that’s great.

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            , but also partly because I feel it’s an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

            what were my poor choices? I don’t hold every single PoC responsible, but i was stabbed by a PoC so if you say “homeless people” i’ma come at you hard, considering i have never been a victim of crime from a single homeless person.

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                read a little closer. i did. twice. no three times. wait. it’s practically all i talk about. why? because people are terrified of homeless people because they’re scared they’ll catch the poor from them. they think they are dangerous because of, well, bigotry.

                i thought i’d give an example of something most people view as a terrible life choice (i haven’t made a cent from it) that has been some of my life’s most rewarding work.

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                  You’re not clever. You can’t pull off playing at being that obtuse, it just makes you look stupid.

                  Nobody else mentioned them, they were not part of the conversation, you injected the subject and then chose to be offensively pissed off about it.

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                    no, i’m pissed because she chose to say anyone who has gotten stabbed deserved it

                    that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

                    result of their own choices. blaming the victim.

                    you are unfamiliar with what is called a red herring? go get some reading comprehension. you can pull off being that obtuse though.

                    sorry i called out your anti-homeless bigotry though. have fun being a whiny bitch!

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          You know what, judging by your behaviour in this thread I kinda get why you got stabbed…

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      It is, I’m betting actual fucking money and organs that it is

      The right has been dreaming of this shit for fucking YEARS. They DREAM of murdering minorities, and with Trump in the seat, they WILL NOT GET PUNISHED