Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
Only if you let randos decide for you.
That said, I personally would never see someone like that again.
There were ways he could have voiced his confusion without being pushy, like “ah, want to be doubly-protected, eh?” and then proceed to put it on.
IMO it’s good practice to, at the very least, START any physical relation with barriers. If you want to move away from them over time, that’s something all parties need to give enthusiastic consent for.