Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
hold up. let’s ignore the fact that you have an IUD, and that you were both clean.
any sexual partner that throws shade about wearing a condom should be put on an automatic “no-fuck” list. the only exception to this is if you have been regularly raw-dogging without complaint.
point is, your partner was trying to compel you to remove safe sex protections that you were comfortable with. this isn’t the first time they have done this with a partner and implies they have unprotected sex regularly.
you got lucky, this time. if safe sex is important to you, you need to set those ground rules and not allow your partners to dissuade you, because one day you will regret it.
the next time this happens and they try to guilt you into fucking them raw just tell them, “I guess it’s alright, I don’t have any condoms small enough to fit you.” I can guarantee the mood will be dead and you won’t have to tell them to wear a condom again.