I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.
Wholesome. Good on you for getting out of the women love bad guys mindset. It makes no sense and it’s very toxic.
Some women like excitement, I imagine. Some “bad guys” might bring that. But most people just want to be with someone genuine who can take care of themselves and care about them. And people want to laugh. Be seen. Be heard.
I was very shy growing up but I cracked after I realized that people just want to be treated like I want to be treated. With respect, and the other things I mentioned. Once I realized I had the ability to give those things, I grew out of my shell. Also getting over the fear of unsuccessfully attempting to be someone’s friend. We don’t have to be friends with everyone. Not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. I don’t like everyone either.
Once you find someone who likes you, latch on. Whether it’s a friend or a romantic partner. 😊