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Cake day: January 21st, 2026

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  • I would like there to be more activity in a greater variety of communities, which I think will happen in time as the Fediverse grows. The main thing preventing me from posting my own interests and creations is a (probably excessive) caution about sharing personal/identifying things online, so I’m not going to criticize others for choosing the same. More users also tends to bring with it lower quality content, which leads to the next point:

    As others like @[email protected] (who makes a lot of great comments in general) pointed out, there are a lot of political posts which seem more interested in venting their own frustrations and parroting popular opinions than having a constructive discussion and being receptive to different opinions. There is a lack of nuance. It’s possible to criticize the systems and people you do support without it meaning that you support the opposition, and it’s also possible you admit when someone you dislike makes a valid point without siding with them. You could even see a question like “how do I resolve this specific issue with Windows?” and one of the top responses will inevitably be something like “ew, you should be using Linux instead” and while I may not disagree, it does nothing to answer the question.

    I’m not bothered by the gender ratios since it’s not a factor in how I interact with others, and users here are pretty quick to shut down rare instances of hostility towards a specific gender.





  • I say this as someone who thinks adoption is a wonderful thing to do and is fine with the idea of raising children that are not biologically mine:

    At least in my country, children that are up for adoption often have severe birth/cognitive defects and/or trauma (carrying a healthy child to term and giving it up for adoption is pretty much unheard of). While that’s a risk you face with biological children too, I don’t blame anyone for wanting to minimize that risk by not taking in a child that could require specialized care for the rest of its life with no guarantee of success (this applies to couples who choose to terminate a pregnancy upon discovering the risk of severe defects).

    Adopted children are also more likely to struggle with integrating with their new family compared to a child that you raised from birth.

    Finally, the process for adoption can be very lengthy and expensive, while fertility treatments are sometimes subsidized by governments or employers.

    So, while I personally would never insist on having biological children, I don’t think it’s inherently immoral for others to want them or to not want the challenges that come with adoption.