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          When I’m looking up porn, I’m fully uninterested in 90% of what comes up for cuckholding, so having a separate term is helpful.

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            I don’t approve of separate gendered words to convey the exact same concept, that’s just silly, but I can see how it would be useful when looking up porn

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              It’s very useful for porn, but it’s also a different thing culturally. Cuckholding involves playing on people’s internalized toxic masculinity and often has really weird racial overtones or implications that a woman in a hetero partnership is property of the man.

              Cuckqueaning involves playing on people’s internalized beauty standards and doesn’t really have the raceplay aspect.

              It’s not like actor and actress, where it’s the same exact thing except for the gender.

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                Does cuckhold porn ever take on those cuckquean traits, and vice versa? To me it just comes across as subgenres stemming from the same basic concept. Also, how does cuckqueaning play on beauty standards? I’m not following that description.

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                  It may, I’m not an expert, just an enthusiastic amateur. I don’t think it would really work very well, but porn isn’t exactly known for its continuity.

                  The insecurity at play under Cuckholding is that you’re not man enough, and under cuckqueaning it’s that you’re not attractive enough (roughly).

                  In real life, I wish I had to deal less with the side effects of being considered attractive (I’m normal looking, but that’s all that’s needed for creepy comments and more all over the place), so I enjoy playing off of that during sex.

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                    Gotcha, that makes more sense. So its just driven by insecurity, but the type of insecurity is the determining factor. I could see see scenarios where both variants could be applied to the opposite gender, but I think a lot of tastes, porn included, are algorithm driven these days so it seems unlikely you’d ever see something like that.

                    That conversation took a real left turn, but I learned something new so thank you for that. 😂